Let’s face it; life can be challenging at times. And our kids know it better than anyone. They’re learning how to navigate big emotions, communicate difficult situations, and just understand their world.
There are moments of pure bliss, which reminds us of the joy of being human and there are other moments where we feel like we really do not belong here or that we’ve completely screwed up.
But each day comes and goes and we survive.
But we have to work to prepare our kids for this so that they don’t get stuck in the past or start dwelling on the “could-haves, should-haves” but to move forward with confidence.
How to raise kids that can handle the challenges of life
As parents, we should start preparing them early enough so that they can be able to handle the challenges that life has to offer without comfortably. There are a number of ways to do so, so this is definitely not an exhaustive list!
Let them make mistakes and fail
Sometimes failure could be a wonderful thing. Instead of shielding our kids wholly, we should expose them and let them try on some projects, within safety parameters of course. When they fail, do not rush in all the time like a knight in shining armor.
Let them wake up and try again.
You may ask them what they have learned about their failure and what they would do differently again. When the kids fail and then succeed after several more trials, it builds in resilience in them. They will face similar challenges in life and it would be good to know that they can handle their own. Read more: Raising resilient kids who bounce back instead of wallowing in emotions
Talk to them
You should have open communication with your children. Let them understand that it will not always be great as they grow up but you will be there to support them when you can. By talking to them, you will be able to understand their fears and worries and this will help you assist them in making better choices and decisions as they grow up. You can show them alternative ways of dealing with challenges and struggles in their lives. Read more: How to know your kids need listening and undivided attention
Teach them how to take it easy
Teach them that sometimes, it is better to take it easy if they want to succeed in life. Challenges come and go and they should not carry too much weight on their shoulders. Instead of worrying too much about what their future holds, they can focus better on their present day and give their best then. The past has no much meaning in the present either and hence they should learn to let that go. Read more: How to help kids develop emotional strength for life
Teach them important life skills
Social skills are on the very top of the life skills that you should teach your kids. Communication skills are an important element in our lives and if they are able to use them effectively, they will have an easier time.
They will be able to deal with issues arising in their lives and the connection they have with other people. You can also give them the opportunity to learn other skills, such as swimming, dancing, cooking, cleaning, among others. Read more: What life skills do kids need to be successful?
Teach them to be confident
Dealing with life challenges requires confidence and some level of bravery. Teach your kids how to stand in the face of adversity and they will be able to do so in the future when challenges crop up. Read more: The secret to raising confident kids is hiding in the moments they fail
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Kara is an author, wife, and mother of 3 children living in Boston, MA. She has her degree in Secondary Education & Adolescent Childhood Development and is passionate about connecting with and even helping other parents on their journey to raise awesome kids!