We do a 4 gift rule in our family that at the heart focuses on sharing with one another. It has really been a positive shift for our children for both birthday and Christmas. But what’s more is that it’s helped even shape our family culture to be less self-centered and more together-driven.
And I am constantly asked for family gift ideas that can be shared. I usually give a few ideas and end with “the ideas are limitless!” to which sometimes I have been told that is what makes them difficult.
Shared Family Gift idea lists
The first year we ever did a shared gift, we did a New York City trip. And from the outside that seems really elaborate and expensive. But in reality, we used points for our hotel and attractions, plus NYC is a 3 hours drive for us. So it was about $65 out of pocket. While I believe that even a low key getaway is a really wonderful share gift that can positively shape culture — memories! — I’ve tried to compile an assortment of smaller scale items into a gift list. But a big trip is definitely one to save up for in the future if you can.

Read more about why families should try even just one shared gift every year!

Continue to shape family culture by reframing negativity!
Using the word “SMILE” this is a cheat sheet on how to reframe negative thoughts and words into something more positive for the family to focus on. And it’s an immediate shift from negative to positive!


Kara is an author and advocate for positive, grace-filled parenting. She is homeschooler to her 4 children living on a farm in New England. She believes in creative educational approaches to help kids dive deeper into a rich learning experience and has her degree in Secondary Education & Adolescent Childhood Development. She is passionate about connecting with and helping other parents on their journey to raise awesome kids!

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