How to help a child cope with disappointment and grow from failure
How to help children develop growth mindset even in moments of failure and disappointment.
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Should children really “know better” or do we need to teach them?
Have you ever looked at your child or children in a moment of frustration and thought “they should know better!” It could be something like picking up something they tripped on so the next person doesn’t fall on their face or maybe it’s something as simple as closing the door behind them. Regardless, as adults…
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The simple key to turn a bad day into a positive opportunity
I got a phone call this morning and I was talking about how my 2 and 4 year olds were unintentionally tag-teaming a scream-a-thon. “Why?” was the response. But all I could think is “Anyone’s guess is as good as mine. Because they have big emotions? Because they don’t know how to express themselves? Or…
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How to set limits and empower kids when they fail — Reclaim discipline without shame
To shame someone is to put them down. It’s to crush their heart and make them feel less-than in the moment. Most literally, if we descriptively define what it actually means to use our words to shame another person, it is to inhibit, humiliate, embarrass, degrade, crush, and wither their very soul. And yet we…
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How to shift to positive language and encourage better behavior
In 2011, I started shifting away from negative language in my high school classroom to a more positive beat. It’s part of what I studied and researched throughout college. Even so, to my astonishment, I started seeing results almost immediately. As if I was holding some sort of magical potion, these teenagers started behaving differently…
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How to positively respond to a child’s defiance and lying
Our family believes in natural and logical consequences. We also strive for positive guidance through tough situations. But when a child becomes defiant or lies, natural consequences feel a little less “black and white” and a lot more confusing both for caregiver and child. It’s easy to feel like we’re grasping at straws to find a…
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How to empower a student after their teacher uses fear as discipline
As I walked to the dismissal line at school, Jenn quickly walked right past me with a sour face. She trotted to the car without a word and melted immediately upon entering the van. “What’s wrong? What happened?” I asked. “Ms. Kinsington told us if we weren’t better, she wouldn’t be our teacher anymore!” she…
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The best logical outcomes for hitting with a positive parenting approach
Emma, my 2nd child likes to stomp, scream, and hit when she is mad. Back when she was a so-called threenager, she could be vicious. Now entering more of the pre-teen stages, she and some of my other children have learned to deal with emotions better, but they’re still learning that using force is not…
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How positive parenting helps a child’s self growth in the early years
The moment I decided to be a positive parent was years before I ever had kids. It was that theoretical notion of what perfect parenting was and I was too strong willed to let anyone tell me that I would raise my kids differently. For years I had gone to school to be a teacher,…
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5 truths of positive parenting nosey strangers won’t understand
Parenting can be quite taxing and there is no denying that. Most times, kids just won’t listen to you. They would argue with you and annoy you. It is then that it gets very vexing and stressful to handle kids and to have a positive attitude towards whatever that is happening. Sometimes it is very…
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How to overcome being a frustrated parent
Parenting is a hard gig and one that is constantly posing new challenges. There are those days of frustration and feeling like a failure that somehow we allow to start defining who we are and who our children are without seeing the larger picture. In the trenches of parenthood it’s so easy to not be able to…
